I know a lot of readers of my blog think that I should move and be done with my parents (them providing for me and all). Its not that easy...I know what your saying too, nothing worth having is easy, get a backbone, be an adult and be on your own 100%. I have been reading your comments. I have an example on a small scale tho.. I bought some of my daughters school supplies last week. I did not buy them all becouse I wanted her to pick some out...My mom went behind my back and bought the remaining supplies. I know it was not much but this was my chance to provide for my daughter and my mom took that away from me. Its like it makes them feel better or boosts their ego to provide things in my life. My parents are very insistant that they buy me some glasses. After flat refusing several times, I will probably go for glasses this week. Its almost like they want this control. I ask and I get...sometimes I don't ask. I pay my rent, utilities, food and gas and everything else my mom wants to provide. She wants to spend 90% of her stimulus check on us. (she all but said it...yep she did).
I guess this is my fault, for getting into this situation, and for not moving. She has always helped us...since we were married...I need help good ol mom will bail us out...His family never really had the money to help....they have helped some, and I am greatful to them too. I am just ready to do it on my own. His family let us live with them when my mom flat out refused...you will disrupt our life she said. His mom said you have kids TO disrupt your life come on over...And I try not to compare the two families I really do....
I want my parents to babysit my daughter, do grandmother stuff with her...take her places, buy her toys, etc and just be friends with me and my husband....let us live our lives in our own way. Don't nitpick and judge us.
I need to go..get ready for work...I'm off tomorrow I'll read comments and I'll blog again tomorrow or so.
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In any case, lots of luck with everything1