I have read all comments...here is my coment on your coments:
#1 my husband and I make about $2000 a month...some months are better than others...he bairly made any money in April--May. Let me explain..he gets paid daily, if nobody needs their computer fixed he does not make any money. There have been many a day he has "had the day off" I make 6-700 a month. We have no credit, we suck at saving money.
2. I have lived at seven different addresses since I have been married. I don't have the energy, or whatever you call it to move again. I want my utopia, my hapily ever after. This must be it. I think we can work things out to stay here.
3. My mom is not getting involved any way, she will babysit my daughter and all but the feud is between my husband and my dad.
4. I have a feeling this will blow over given some time
I just CAN NOT MOVE. I don't have the willpower to start over again. It will drive me insane. I don't want my daughter to maybe change schools or deal with this so close to school starting. I need this to end and end soon...I will keep ya informed.
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I have moved a lot in my early years also. I am not a big believer in happily ever after. Life is tough and people have to work at it unless they are wealthy. Then they have a different set of problems.
As for your mother she is in the middle. She must hear from your dad the complaints etc and it has to be hard on her. Do not kid yourself that she is not involved because she is.
Sure it may blow over but it is never over. It is a cycle that you have gotten into. Until you break the cycle this will keep happening.
Do you not think your daughter senses the tension?? You are kidding yourself if you think she hasn't picked up on the tension.
You say that you do not have the willpower to move but you have to dig deep in yourself and make some positive life changes. You are not happy, you husband is not happy, your parents are not happy and something has to change. Sure you can blame your parents but they did their job in raising you. It is not up to them to provide you and your husband with a place to live. Everytime you are late with the rent then they have a right to bitch about it. If there are no medical conditions affecting you or your husband then you guys have to buckle down and getter done. When you got married and became a wife and mother it is now your responsibilty and your husbands to provide for your family. Expecting other people to do it for you is the easy way out. You resent the way your parents treat you and your husband but you will not break the cycle. Can't be bugging you that much then.