I do not know where to begin..if ya didn't read my last parents blog please do so first, its two posts ago (I think).
I feel five years old around my dad.
I feel unloved..
I feel that I can do no right...
I feel my dad will never be proud of me.
I feel like I am just one more problem to solve...(throw her some money and she will go away).
Since my dad has talked to me Last Wednesday, I feel sick inside, I keep thinking that he will evict us. I am sad, mad, and depressed. I can not concentrate at my job...how much concentration do I need to wash dishes...I think about him and this "feud" every waking moment.
Yesterday my husband called my dad..........(big mistake) they insulted each other back and forth....come to my house I'll kick your ass....no you know where we live I'll kick your ass if ya show up. etcccccccccccccc.
My dad told me (Wednesday) not exact words....if your husband ever disrespects your mother again I'll kick his butt. SOOOOOOOO my question is why does HE get to disrespect my husband to me..can I kick his butt???????????
Am I mad at my husband for telling off my dad? well honestly no..may seem messed up but my dad sorta had it comming....I was not totaly angry....
This is not the first time He has told off my dad, after a week or so they usually settle down and get over it....
I feel thay have never loved/liked my husband
I feel they have never given him a chance.
I feel they don't really know him.
Hubby is loving, nice and sweet (to most people) He will help just about anyone. He is a hard worker..a good provider and a good guy.
I'll blog more are the story goes, I'll keep ya up to date....
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As for your husband, he should step aside and let you deal with your family. All he did was make things worse. Your parents already see him as not providing for you and they will not have respect for him until he shows to them he is not doing everything he can to provide for you. My parents did not like my ex-husband and guess what, in the end the were right about him. I was blinded to what he was really like and I stopped seeing my family and had huge fights with them. In the end I mended the fences with my family and divorced his ass. I have said this before, MOVE OUT OF THE HOUSE and find another place to rent. No excuses you guys have to do what you can to get out of that situation. Take control of your life instead of letting your parents control you. The satisfaction you get from buying something with your hard earned cash is awesome. You can say I wanted that, I saved for it and now here it is.
Sorry for the post but I have always been a straight shooter and tell it like it is. If someone wants to hear only what they want to hear then I am never the perosn to talk to.
If moving out in the near future is impossible, you might try talking to your mom first. Remind her that you're doing the best you can for now and are taking steps to improve things. Also offer to help her or ask her to go shopping with you. Ask for her advice. Get on her good side, if you are not there already. Then talk to your dad. Get back on his side. In other words, re-establish friendly relations with your parents. It will likely take some time, but it will be time well spent. They may reach a point at which they are more willing to see and understand your side and situation. In the meantime, make plans to move. Your efforts to mend broken ties with your parents will surely pay off. As you probably realize, arguing back and forth just makes things worse and harder to fix.
I can also relate to your situation in a way. My brother's wife had something against my dad and belittled him every chance she had. My dad wasn't stupid and reached a point where he didn't want to see her. In the meantime, neither my brother or his wife bothered to treat my father with respect. Even when my father was dying, my brother's wife still had issues and tried to stop my brother from visiting him. He never made amends with my dad. My dad died before my brother came out to see him.
It's best if you can establish closer ties with your parents in spite of all of the fighting. Don't ever give up on yourself or on them. The odds seem great now, but you will prevail. Prayers and hugs for your success, Buffy. You can do it!
You've really had a hard week, Buffy.
I think Christine & Dot both gave you great advice.
It is easiest to just complain & feel bad than to take action to make things change. Till you feel you have the inner strength to move I think you're gonna have to find a way to live with their criticism...it's all a part of emotionally growing up, regardless of your age.