Most times when I get around my mother I feel like I am five years old...I feel like a bummm and a baby. Sometimes my mom only sees my faults and not the few things I have done well/right. I have come a long way in the past year or two and I FEEL like sometimes she just dosen't give me any credit. I try not and will not compare my husbands fanmily to mine, mainly becouse his mother has passed. BUTTTT, they did not judge me....they said, You owe us some money, you will pay when you can. My rent that I pay my mother goes into a savings account untill the taxes or insurance is due. Its not like she has to pay her personal bills with my rent.....Still I am a bummmm for being late. I feel like I am always being judged. My husband works hard too, he does not do too many house chores but he provides money....Without his help the car insurance would have not been paid.

I am not saying I am a perfect mother, I am not! But, I will be respectful to my daughter if she ever has any financial problems. I will know where she is comming from becouse I have been there. I will make her feel comfortable to come and talk to me and I will listen or help or whatever is needed at the time. Sometimes I feel like a stranger in my mothers home.

How much help (financial) should a parent give an adult child?? Would you be understanding or bothered that you had to bail your child out of THEIR mess??? Would you place limits on the amount of help you give?? Or would it be If I have it and it dosen't hurt me its yours???????????????

Someone please respond